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Want to Make a Change in Your Life? Plan Some Play and Have More Fun!

Odds are you aren’t having enough fun…especially if you just snorted at that statement!

Sis had fun taking a photo of my Amaryllis!

My sis was in town this past week and though we aren’t the best planners in the world we do manage to set the intention to do something fun, silly or out-of-the-ordinary on each visit.

Over the last few years we’ve managed to go zip lining for the first time (we started out chicken-hearted and now can’t wait to go again), alligator watching by air boat at night (ugh-buggy but fascinating…no rush to do it again), go cart racing (always good fun), feeding alligators at Gatorland (yes, I live in Florida), and the usual assortment of psychic readings, mini spa days, and exploring local fairs and such.

Now mind you we aren’t a couple of spring chickens anymore (50+ and 50++) making some of these activities even funnier! We’ve learned that letting go, laughing, hanging out with no agenda, no deadline and no goal except to have fun spurs the imagination, allows creativity and lofty dreams to flow and generates new ideas, new inventions and new possibilities.

In fact, sis just called with a new product invention!

Playtime is a must. If you’re stuck and not making the changes you know you need to make you’re probably doing what I do…get lost my head…whereby nothing happens. I’m stubborn. I like being in my head. It’s comfy in there…but it doesn’t serve me or others all the time.

If I want to make a difference, stay on top of my game, serve my clients, grow myself and my business I have to plan some play. So plan some play!

If I’m with sis…well, it’s hard not to have fun. We’re just wired to do crazy things…like sailing in hurricanes. If you don’t have a sis call your pal and plan something silly.

Try it and let us know what you did. Leave a message so we can all play along!

What Message will You Share to Inspire Others this New Year?

Happy New Year Friends!
Forget last year–make 2012 your best year yet.
Buckle up for the ride 2012 promises to bring.
(Archive this short video when you need a nudge.)

Don’t Wait to Communicate – Here’s Why

Work-Life Balance? Are you Kidding Me?

Every time I hear this term it makes my teeth hurt. What the heck does work-life balance mean anyway?

My work life and and life-life is all the same, BUT it doesn’t mean I allow others to intrude in my life willy-nilly. If that’s the issue you’re dealing with then you don’t need “work-life balance” you need a back-bone!

Seriously, if you choose to work for a person or organization where you know you’re giving your life away, frankly, I have no sympathy for you. But, if your understanding of  privacy parameters at work doesn’t include “contact me during my nephew’s bris” then speak up. Have the conversation to confirm your understanding of when you are available and when you aren’t.

Now, if you work for yourself then you are in control even when you think you aren’t. But..but…but…yeah, yeah, I can hear it now. If I don’t take my customer’s call then I’ll miss their business. Really? Really? If  that’s what you believe then that’s what you’ll get…customer’s that take you for granted and don’t see your value.  You control this to the extent that you value yourself.

Think about it. If you set the example for the type of life you want to live then that’s the client you’ll attract. I bet if you think back to the last customer that canceled  on you…it was the one that wanted to be “the exception to the rule.” You know, the one that always asked for an extra discount even after you’ve given them a special accommodation. It’s the client that seems to always have an excuse, or runs late, or calls you at all hours.

Grow a backbone. It will change your life. I know I’m going to hear comments on this one.

If you still aren’t sure what your life or life purpose is, well that’s a whole other story, but if that’s the case join me for Reinvention Intervention: 5 Really Simple and Smart Steps to Relaunch Your Life teleseminar course.  Starts March 15.

 

Inner Communication is the Key to Reinvention

I believe that the most important conversation you can have is the one you have with yourself.

Have Some Fun!

In my new teleseminar series,“Reinvention Intervention – 5 Really Smart and Simple Steps for Relaunching Your Life”, I talk about the #1 thing that keeps you from living the life you want to live, keeps you from making timely decisions, and keeps you in a place of frustration.

So, what is it–you ask. It’s the failure to make a choice. A decision. Yup, it’s that simple. We live in limbo land and rationalize the end result of possibilities and create endless lists of pros and cons until we are blue in the face–but we never quite commit to a, well…a commitment.

I use that word purposely, because commitment tends to feel like a heavy yoke on our shoulders, weighing us down with responsibilities when in fact, it’s quite the opposite. Not making a decision is what weighs us down. Making a decision is freeing and liberating. Making a decision lifts the fog. Making a decision propels you forward.

If you’re serious about reinventing yourself, you are, my friend, going to have to make a decision. Probably a bunch of them…but, let’s start with one.

Making a decision is a declaration to move in a direction based on your bigger why. The “why” is the compelling reason to change that supersedes all others. It’s the single compelling force that allows you to forge ahead even when the cons seem to outweigh the pros.

And yet, this inner conversation is often the one we fail to initiate with ourselves because it means acknowledging that undefinable thing. That thing we call “gut” feeling or hunch or, if you are more enlightened…your intuition. It means listening very closely for the the truth and, that is indeed, scary.

Here’s the remedy for failure to decide: Put down the pen and paper and go talk a walk. Get out of your office or away from the kitchen table and engage your right brain. Play a game, play with your kids, play hoops, hula hoop, or potsy, frankly, I don’t care. Do anything but think logically.

And then, get quiet and listen to what you are feeling. Get beneath the chatter and you’ll find your feelings. Pay attention. Now, you’ll know what to do.

But, you know this is only the start to your reinvention – don’t you? If you’re living with a sick feeling in the pit of stomach because your life is passing quickly and you’re scared you’re never going to live a life that has meaning for you then join me for a Breakthrough Session. You’ll discover how to stop feeling afraid to step into your passions and decide on your next step.

Don’t Make Resolutions! Reinvent Yourself Instead

Renewal, refresh, review, reflect, rehab, rebound, rejuvenate, regenerate, resolve, reinvent…REJOICE!

‘Tis the season to be thinking about the future and making changes. Resolve to make a decision to RESPECT yourself this new year. (Gotta love those ‘R’ words!) Ask yourself… Is it time to look at success and transformation in a different way? “Is it time for a Reinvention Intervention™?”

There’s nothing better than incorporating your body, mind and soul for true transformation (oh, a ‘T’ word!) When you push against your limitations you begin to remembering your possibilities and passions. Add a cheering squad and your success rate goes up.

Instead of vowing to lose weight vow to change the way you see yourself. Have you spent last year stuck in a job that doesn’t challenge you, use your talents or honor your soul? Have you been living a life that supports everyone but yourself? Are you facing a big change but aren’t sure how to maximize the possibility it holds?

Start your own reinvention by moving your body–nothing fancy required–just shake off your shoes and jump around so you feel the ground under your feet while listening to some fast beat music.

Feels good, right? Silly maybe but who cares–intervention isn’t always pretty. Now while you’re feeling connected to your physical body grab a writing utensil and start scribbling–anything. Really anything. Draw outside the lines, be a kid, be free. Use big arm movements and let loose with a stream-of-consciousness ranting. No one is judging or even looking–so let it rip. If you have crayons and poster size paper all the better. The picture isn’t the purpose…the feeling is. Happy, sad, mad, joyful, remorseful, whatever–take note of your emotions.

Okay, now that you feel perfectly __________ (fill in your own word) let’s add the last step.

What’s missing? What are you missing? What haven’t you done in a while that puts in touch with who you really know yourself to be? What are the emotions the exercise has brought up for you? Is there a passion, a hobby or a side of yourself you have neglected or buried? Do you just miss being a kid? Do you miss dancing or writing or feeling physically challenged? Did the exercise help you remember what FUN feels like? Are you feeling sad or mad about not honoring some part of you? Perhaps you feel joyful and free–do you need to feel that way more often?

If you really want to reinvent yourself enlist a friend to help. Resolve to be imperfect. Resolve to invest in yourself for once. Resolve to communicate with yourself.  Resolve to say “yes” to your gifts, talents and passions this year. Make this year the year to remember who you really are deep in your soul.

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