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Workplace Misunderstandings – Limiting Beliefs that Create Conflict
Posted by: | CommentsOne comment I often hear when it comes to misunderstandings in the workplace is, “If you can just fix my (boss, coworker or customer) then I wouldn’t have any problem communicating.”
Maybe you’re even agreeing with that statement. If you are you have some work to do…inner work.
There are 4 key beliefs you might hold that lead to conflict:
1. I must explain my side first. If you believe this you fail at a fundamental principle of communication. Dr. Stephen Covey put it best, “Seek first to understand before seeking to be understood.”
2. I am a good listener. Hate to break it to you but the odds are not in your favor. Most of us fail miserably as listeners while believing the opposite. Listening is not waiting to speak. It’s actually engaging to understand what is being communicated. This, unfortunately, takes some effort.
3. I’m not afraid. Really? Think again. Fear is the underlying issue of all conflict. Fear you won’t get heard, fear of losing face, fear that you might not get your way or fear that the truth about you will be revealed. It’s difficult to get to the truth when you’re operating from a place of fear.
4. I lose if they win. Communication is not a competitive, contact sport. Switch to cooperation mode if you want to manage workplace misunderstandings.
Good communication requires healthy self-esteem, self-awareness and an attitude of cooperation not competition. Approach conflicting communication styles with this intention and you’ll decrease conflict and misunderstandings.
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Manager’s Top Job – Clear Communication
Posted by: | CommentsUnclear communication and workplace misunderstandings can lead to a loss of productivity, money, clients or worse. Clear communication is the benchmark of a good office and tops the lists of best business practices with a capital “C”.
The clear communication implementation process begins when a new hire joins your team. As a manager, it is your job to make the person feels at ease and that he or she becomes a productive member of the company and your team.
Start by making sure that your new hire is aware of all of the functions your team provides. Clearly communicate what is expected of him or her. A small list of to-dos and reminders, managers can use with each new hire, are listed below. You, as a manager, should have this in your left pocket at all times.
Step 1. Introduction. Introduce your new hire to the tasks verbally. Let the worker know what is expected of him and how he can be a potential star in the company by doing the X-Y-Z list of things. Let him hear you – loud and clear- but don’t forget to connect your head to your heart during your communication and open up a place in the conversation for questions.
Step 2. Create a master list of the job function. Take time and create a written charter of duties. Make a list of to-dos which would be required of the new team member. A generic framework of what is desired and where he/she fits in the office. This is a good time to review job descriptions with your whole team–you’ll be surprised at the misunderstandings.
Step3. Make a detailed description of your wants as a manager. The new team member needs to know how your team functions and what is expected of him or her as a member. As a manager, you need to educate the newest member on the processes and procedures of the company. Make sure they are aligned with the ways of the company by means of a detailed description of the tasks, the expected time-lines and reporting channels. Be clear and describe the expectations in detail – yours and the company’s.
Step 4. Describe the role outside the team. Let the person know his or her role outside the team as well. Describe what is expected of him as a company employee who represents the company on whole with every encounter. Be clear and be concise. Cite facts.
Step 5. Ask for a feedback. Remember communication is a two way process…. You need to ask for feedback and remove noise from the system. Clarify all the issues you feel are still in the gray and make sure that they are fed back into the communication loop. Observe and correct by reverting back to steps 1 to 4, if needed.
Step 6. Make the person create a summary of the tasks at hand. This is perhaps a yearly process, but its advised to initiate this practice after the new team member is apparently comfortable in the job. An analysis of this will illustrate the difference between your explanation and the resource’s understanding. Clear the communication deficit now for greater productivity and profits later.
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Conflict Management in the Workplace-Tips for Bosses
Posted by: | CommentsAs a manager you must have faced resistance to new ideas, initiatives and change to procedures at some point in time. Good managers learn to deal with these minor push-backs and move ahead. Better ones, however, turn that into an opportunity and gain in strength from it – they create a persona for themselves and turn it to their advantage. Some simple managerial and conversational recommendations that make managers turn into leaders, in spite of resistance from a group of people, are discussed below. They would assist a good manager turn into a better leader.
State your Aim Clearly. For a task to be done well, it needs to be clearly stated. Be direct but be positive and use plain tones. State facts as facts and mention requirements in an unambiguous manner. Clear instructions, without an iota of threat works wonders in any situation. Above all, keep a neutral tone and add no negative emotion to the conversation. Half your job is done.
Let People Gripe – Its their Birthright. You have to appear as a very patient listener. You need to listen to the protests people have, but limit it to a logical time span. It need not be unending and you need to make them understand that though occasional bouts of complaints might work – noncompliance does not. Limit the gripe time.
Understand the Real Concern. Often the real cause of the resistance to a new idea is not what is overtly stated. Some undercurrents – not so obvious ones, do not emerge while you speak to people. Good managers learn to keep a tap on these undercurrents and actual reasons to resistance. Prod a little more and get to the bottom of every opposition.
Aim to Resolve in One Sitting. Try and resolve the concerns in one round of interaction. Try not to lead conversations which deal with opposition to your ideas to a round two. Round two are normally bad news and is likely to hound you later.
Accept Logical Suggestions. Be open in your approach to new suggestions. There might be something that you really have missed regardless of all planning and experience. Be candid if you feel that the other side has valid concerns and be open about the ways you intend to address these. There is nothing like making the other person feel happy that the point he or she gave has been accepted.
Fail Safe Solution. If all else fails, don’t be afraid to read the riot act – once in a while. Make the people who resent change aware of the consequences of disobedience to the company, loss of profitability and issues of management moving ahead.
The aim of a manager is to run a team with least resistance. Cooperation and team work in a team are results of clear understanding of the aim and some good management practices. A good leader accepts suggestions that are new and path breaking, but knows when to put a stop to these and move ahead. To be a good manager learn to effectively deal with resistance. The secret lies in good communication.
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Communication Quick Tip – The Keep Cool Formula
Posted by: | CommentsIt always helps to have a quick formula that’s easy to remember, easy to post where you can see it and easy to implement. In touchy communication situations when emotions might thwart clear thinking try these 3 steps:
1. Look – Observe the pace, voice, eye-contact and posture of your listener. Pay attention to emotions, intentions, and any mental or physical distractions. Match and step it down if emotions are high.
2. Adjust – Shift your style to communicate in the way your listener likes to communicate. A small adjustment now saves time, money and effort later.
3. Verify – Verify that the translation and comprehension of your message matches your intention. (and be honest about your intention-is it aligned to your highest self?)
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Misunderstandings at Work–Will Your Conversation Matter a Month from Now?
Posted by: | CommentsLearning to respond to emotionally charged conversations or misunderstandings in the workplace takes practice, patience and perspective. The key is to balance your assertiveness with constraint so you can walk away feeling good about yourself , while not leaving the other party feeling devastated.
Ask yourself the following questions before blurting out an emotional reaction during a challenging conversation. You just might gain a new perspective.
- What’s the long term impact if you say everything you want to say?
- What consequence or result will occur moments after your conversation if you do respond emotionally?
- Will the result last more that those few moments?
- What about the impact in a few hours, days, months or years from now?
- Will this conversation matter at all or will it change the course of a relationship for better or worse?
If you ask yourself these questions before blundering ahead, you’ll discover that some conversations won’t need to happen at all, but don’t make that an excuse for not having the ones that do need to happen.
Thinking about the long term impact allows you to put things into perspective. Perspective goes a long way towards guiding your tone and words, and perhaps changing your intention from hurtful to respectful.
A small shift in your behavior now can go a long way into the future…in a good way.
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Improve Communication at Work – How to Agree to Disagree
Posted by: | CommentsSounds a little crazy I know, but knowing how to walk away from a contentious situation while still being able to agree is a necessary communication skill in business.
What exactly do I mean? Well, if you find yourself in a conversation in which you have consciously applied good communication skills including being an active listener and still find you cannot agree on any point, or you simply do not see eye-to-eye, then it just might be time to agree to disagree.
The consequences of taking a stand for yourself and your principles may be far reaching so be sure you know what you are doing. Communicating your opposing view while maintaining your composure takes fortitude and conviction.
I had a boss once who calmly walked into my office and simply announced that he (the president) had agreed to disagree with the CEO. Not quite sure what that meant, I gave him a questioning look and asked for an explanation.
Apparently, a major request or change of direction, or a shift in command resulted in a situation where neither he nor the CEO were willing to compromise. So they agreed to disagree.
It was civil conversation but the result of agreeing to disagree meant my boss opted to leave his position. Yet, I have no doubt that he slept well that night. He honored his integrity.
You may find yourself in this position some day and you may not be in the financial position to simply walk away as my boss did. The situation you are disagreeing with may be more than simply a blow to your ego, it may involve something unethical.
If you can agree to disagree and continue working without interruption then go for it. But if you find the situation puts you at risk for a lawsuit or worse and you decide to stay ask yourself this–is the cost to your peace-of-mind, to your integrity, to your family, to your self-worth and your health worth it?
What challenging communication situations have you dealt with at work?
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Communicating at Work – 5 Steps for Managing Resistance to Change
Posted by: | CommentsResistance to change is a common workplace challenge. Poor communication contributes to the push-back that comes with rolling out new procedures, a change in status, a physical move or launching a new project.
The dissension can come from a single voice or the collective whole.
Try these 5 steps for gaining cooperation:
1. Spell out and communicate both orally and in writing, exactly what the changes are and how they will affect individual positions.
2. If you choose to entertain objections set a time frame and stick to it. A never ending gripe session serves no one.
3. Listen to the emotions and the underlying fears that are often couched in vague complaints such as “this will take too much time.” The fear may be that the employee will have to stay later and miss picking up their child on time.
4. Check your interpretation of the complaints by reflecting back what you have heard.
5. Consider suggestions and set a follow-up date for the outcome. Not all changes have that kind of flexibility but you might be surprised at what can be adjusted for better buy-in.
Employees simply want to be a part of something bigger. Use this opportunity to communicate honestly and create a deeper connection and the odds for cooperation will increase.
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Invitation for Communication
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