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People Just Want to be Acknowledged and Appreciated

The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated. ~ William James

It’s true that the number one motivator for employees is appreciation.  Whether you are motivating employees, students, co-workers or your children practice giving motivation that suits his or her’s learning style–auditory, visual and kinesthetic.

Take the time to “tell” the auditory person what you appreciate about them rather than sending an email, writing a note or even giving a gift. Hearing the words live and in-person really connects with the auditory. So get up and tell them in person. Or pass out fortune cookies stuffed with words of praise and have them read their good fortunes aloud.

Visuals love notes, plaques and anything they can both see and display for others to see. Keep those cards and letters coming. I used colorful, post notes to write short boldly colored words of thanks for my visual staff. They displayed them on their cupboards like a display of “first place” blue ribbons.

A pat on the back goes a long way for the kinesthetic people. They want to feel the love. A hug, handshake or high-five tugs at the heartstrings of these feeling folks.

Coworkers and clients will shift their attitude and raise morale. Everyone benefits.

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Communicating Negative Feedback

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Feedback–How to Provide Positive Gift-Giving Phrases

Sometimes giving positive feedback is as challenging as giving negative feedback. The difficulty is sounding positive and specific not just enthusiastic and generic.  Everyone is in the position to offer “gift-giving phrases”–boss to employee, co-worker to co-worker, salesperson to customer, parent to child, spouses, partners and so on.

Here are a few gift-giving phrases: (be specific with the details)

  • You really made a difference by ___( sharing your expertise, pitching in to help…)
  • I’m impressed with your____( ability to handle angry customers, insight into this project…)
  • You got my attention with___( your interpretation of the research…)
  • You can be proud of yourself for___(handling that misunderstanding with diplomacy….)
  • One of the things I enjoy most about you is___(your ability to make others feel good…)

Share your own gift-giving phrases below.

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Happy New Year – What Important Questions Do You Need to Ask?

I just posted an article on ezinearticles  http://ezinearticles.com/?id=3525063 about the top 10 questions to ask at work.  This got me thinking about what questions  I need to ask myself  as I look back at 2009 and look ahead at 2010. Here’s my top ten:

1.  What am I most grateful for in 2009?

2.  What can I celebrate from 2009?

3.  What did I do best in 2009 that I can carry into 2010?

4.  What could I do better in 2010?

5.  What stopped me from meeting some goals in 2009?

6.  Are those goals still important? If yes, what do I need to do differently, who do I need help from and what mindset do I need to have to achieve them in 2010?

7.  Who do I need to know in 2010?

8.  Who needs to know me?

9.  Who do I serve?

10.  Who do I need to thank?

Your turn-what questions do you need to ask? Please share in comments.

Here’s to Your Success in the New Year